P and C go together
Praise and Criticism go together, like sweet and sour, if you believe in one, then you believe in the other.
The trouble is we like praise, even if we feel like we don’t deserve it.
Ironically we can feel identically about Criticism, without the “like” part of course ☺: we tend to believe we don’t deserve it either.
However Praise and Criticism are two sides of the same coin.
Since they can both help us, we should expect and embrace both.
Praise is the personal coach that helps us to improve or keep doing whatever earned that praise; as in doing four more planks !
Criticism is the personal coach that helps to improve our “form” so we improve rather than hurt ourselves.
But neither Praise or Criticism should “stick” for long.
Praise is sweet, but meant to be savoured, and enjoyed in the moment – life quickly moves ahead though, and that candy left behind, after being enjoyed.
Criticism may at first leave a bad taste in our mouths, seem negative to us even, but of the two types of feedback, it is really the most helpful despite the initial sour taste.
Criticism is the most helpful because usually we know what we our strong abilities are, but we can be oblivious to how we can improve, it’s really the so-called criticism feedback which we initially consider negative that is really the more helpful.
I also suspect that most criticism is actually of the type you could call a Point for Improvement comment, as in “you might want to try ….”
I try to consider criticism carefully, was it provided to me with the intent of helpfulness? If so, I am grateful for their insight and try to see if I can apply that feedback to a positive result. If I consider it and I don’t agree, then I can easily let it go in the moment – let life move forward, and simply set it aside. A difference of opinion, neither of us in the “wrong”.
Regardless of whether I accept the criticism or point for improvement,
I believe it is best if I always encourage and give thanks for “criticism” “point for improvement” feedback, just as I do for “praise” since it is always up to me whether I accept it!
Me and 2015 Champion Mohammed Qahtani
If you would like to hear Mohammed’s champion speech – click here, I hope you will enjoy his humour and message.
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