My Mom, Lillian, connected to everyone in her life in different ways.
She talked regularly on the phone with her many friends, and her family and her way of ending the call was to say “I’m going to love and leave you“. So many people have told me she ended her calls to them like that also, I’m Going to Love You and Leave You.
She remembered special dates of family and friends by writing them in her little book and would call or send a card. I remember getting a phone call from her wishing me Happy 10th Anniversary for my successful cataract surgery (I had forgotten the date, and lost track of the years!) Obviously she remembered all kinds of events 🙂
Lillian was creative in many ways. She loved painting, and painted in oil, and water colour. She also enjoyed drawing and on my desk, below my keyboard is a drawing she made in 1967 of Tiger (my german shepherd) that she covered in plastic so I would always have it. I think of Mom every time I sit at my desk.
Lillian’s creativity was useful also, she studied and mastered card folding and included her needlepoint in beautiful gift cards, get well cards, birthday cards, thinking of you cards. People tell me that they saved every card and bookmark Mom ever made them because it was special, handmade and personal.
Mom also loved to make relish, and jams and when I pull out one of Mom’s relishes from the pantry and every-time I use them I am reminded how she cared for the people in her life and demonstrated that care.
Mom had faith in God, and before you ate at her table or left her home to travel to your own, she made you stop so she could pray for you and your safe trip, It was not unusual to get a phone call from her so she knew you had arrived home safely.
Lillian loved to knit, and she made toques and slippers especially. The slippers were soft and especially appreciated by family, who like warm feet in the winter time, I guess that means everyone 🙂 Toques she knitted by the hundreds all summer long while she was watching TV with Dad. These toques were donated to the homeless in Vancouver for the cold damp winter months, and I loved her toques because they were warm, colourful and not too tight, a bonus because a tight toque makes my hearing aids squeal.
Mom was special and will be remembered for the loving person she was. I will remember her in countless ways, because she showed her love for me in countless ways.
Mom showed that love and kindness to my Dad, my brother, her grandchildren and great grandchildren. She showed that kindness to her entire family, her nieces and brother in law, sisters in law, and her church family.
I’ll be talking always to you Mom, you loved and left me too soon.
My Mom, Lillian passed peacefully June 6, 2018 and left a hole I can never fill in my life.
Missing you Mom.
Thanks for reading. I wasn’t sure if I would blog about my Mom’s passing. This post is not about me, it’s about her and the life and person she was. I was fortunate to be her son. I was so glad I stood and spoke at her funeral because I wanted to share how I remember her, and it was six minutes I prepared for and yet it was a day I never wanted to experience. I know she would have been proud of her son speaking out and it was my last gift to her. Life is a gift, hug those you love as much and as often as you are able, you won’t regret it.