I have discovered that people are surprised by compliments or expressions of appreciation.
I don’t mean with family, or your closest friends – they aren’t surprised. I mean the people you see regularly, but you don’t know their birthday, but you aren’t a stranger neither.
The cost is free, the time it takes is negligible to give a sincere compliment but the effect is long lasting.
I worked in an office in Vancouver decades ago, and this event is still remembered. One of my coworkers took the time one day to mention she noticed I took the time to dress well for work (ironed shirts, ties) everyday. She complimented me on my appearance. It struck me because the compliment was unexpected but appreciated. I don’t remember her name but I recall how I felt because she took the time to say a few kind words. Unexpected, welcome and appreciated.
After finishing my consultation with my doctor a few years ago, I advised him I had one more thing to talk to him about. He waited, expecting another medical question. Instead I thanked him sincerely for being my family doctor since 1992, and that I noticed and appreciated how he periodically called me in to review my health situation and proactively took an interest. My doctor was at a loss for words. To my surprise, he wasn’t used to being thanked for his caring and professional services. Unexpected, welcome and appreciated.
A few days ago, I received a compliment from a man who became a friend in recent years., an encouraging supportive friend. The generous compliment resonated to me because it was unexpected, welcome and appreciated.
I can live for two months on a good compliment. – Mark Twain
Kindness starts with how we speak and talk to our fellow humanity – try an experiment. Give a verbal box of chocolates to someone you know but not someone you know really well, someone who gives you good service, but not someone you know as a close friend- observe how it refreshes their day. Unexpected, welcome and appreciated – but it won’t be forgotten. I guarantee it.
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